Several
weeks passed and nothing happened. I was beginning to think I had been
forgotten when Georgia, the cancer nurse from Poole phoned to ask what was
happening. When I told her that I’d heard nothing, she seemed concerned, and
said she would follow it up. True to her word, I received a letter from
Southampton to say the operation would take place on Mon 22 August, just 10
days away. I felt a combination of relief and apprehension.
The following Wednesday we went to Southampton for the
pre-operative tests. Sadly, before we left I received a text message from my
friend Steve in which he implied that his death was near and wishing me well
for my operation. It was a really moving message, in which he thanked me for 40
years of friendship, and for sharing our experiences during the previous 6
months. I was deeply moved. All went well with the tests, but when we got home,
Steve’s son Robert phoned to say that his dad had died that morning. That was a
real blow for Masha and me even though we had expected it. Steve and his family
had been our close friends since moving to Wareham in 1976.
The previous day I had received an appointment for a PET scan
which I attended the day after the Southampton visit. It involved taking a
small dose of radio active material, followed by a full body scan. The
radiologist told me afterwards that each scan cost over £1000. I wonder what I
am costing the NHS. I am just thankful for its existence.
We had only just arrived home from the scan, when the
hospital rang to say that there were shadows on my lungs, and asking me back in
the afternoon for a further CT scan. It was not the happiest of afternoons for
Masha and me, but when we arrived home the hospital rang a second time to say
that all was clear. A false alarm, but a bit of a worrying one.
The surgery was due on the following Monday, but on the
Friday Southampton hospital rang to say that the operation had been postponed
because they were unable to get an anaesthetist. I was disappointed, but later
in the afternoon the phoned back to say that it would go ahead on the Thursday.
Only a 3 day delay.
On the Monday I began the pre-surgery diet; no alcohol and
restricted food intake. On the Tuesday we went to the theatre in Bournemouth to
see “Dirty dancing” to take my mind off what was coming up. Unfortunately, the
storyline was not to my liking and the production was hopeless. I couldn’t even
dull the pain with a few pints!
The next day I was due to report to the hospital at 3pm. We
stopped on the way at a Golf-course for lunch, and the prospect of another
fairly major operation, did make me feel a bit low. One of the most common
symptoms of cancer is depression, but luckily I hadn’t really felt down apart
from the first couple of days after the initial diagnosis. That Wednesday was
the nearest I got.
When we arrived, I was put into a pre-surgery ward, but soon
after Masha left, I was told that they were short-staffed’ and I was moved to
the post operation cancer ward. I never understood why they called me in the
day before the operation, but that sleepless night in a ward filled with moans
and groans and with the prospect of surgery the next day, meant that the night
was almost as bad as the one before the first operation. To cap it all, I was
told late in the evening that my operation was scheduled for the following
afternoon. Yet more hanging about. I think it must have been worse for Masha
because I phoned and moaned at her several times and there was nothing she
could do about it of course.
The following morning passed slowly, but at last at about
1.30pm, I was taken to the anaesthetic room to prepare for the surgery. Once
again, the team of anaesthetics were fantastic. They reassured me that all
would be well and that when I awoke I would be in the High Dependency Unit
where I would be given special care before returning to the normal ward. As
with the previous operation, I have no memory of passing out, and sure enough I
woke up in the HDU about 7 hours later. There were only 3 of us in the ward and
we were looked after by 2 superb nurses who catered for our every need. In my
case it included changing my stoma bag. Not everyone’s activity of choice! By
the following morning they had me out of bed, and by lunchtime I even walked
down the corridor with their support.
After lunch, Masha arrived. It was fantastic to see her, and
I appreciated that to get to Southampton hospital involved a 2 hour journey
each way. including a car, a train and a bus journey. Despite that, she visited
each day I was there which made the stay in hospital that much more bearable.
As after the previous operation, my stomach had several small
cuts where the keyhole surgery entered, and one larger scar where they removed
the liver and call bladder. Ironically, the scar this time was just above the
pelvic bone, whereas for the bowel surgery the main scar was in the central
stomach area. It all seemed the wrong way around, but I think they knew what
they were doing. Once again, I was
connected to a catheter, and several tubes and drains, which made moving around
quite difficult. In all I had about 14 cuts into my stomach during the 2
operations. I felt a bit like a pin cushion. Apart from the first night in the
main ward, I had very little pain, and only needed a few paracetamol tablets
during the first couple of days after surgery. I was lucky.
During the next couple of days, I was kept moving as much as
possible. And one by one the various tubes were removed. As previously the
nurses and doctors were great, but again it was clear that they were working
under considerable stresses. I hope it isn’t typical, but once again I shared
the ward with and incredibly difficult man. Not only did he call out throughout
the day and night, but he constantly insulted the nurses, even racially abusing
one as she did her best to clean him up. How anyone could be quite so
unpleasant, I don’t understand. It is a credit to the nursing staff that the
carry on with their dedicated work despite the likes of him.
The operation had been on the Thursday, and by Monday they
decided that I could go home. Before I was signed out I was examined by My
Armstrong’s assistant, who discovered that the drain from my liver on the right
side was still leaking bile, and that it should therefore remain in place for
another 10 days. He arranged for me to see him at Bournemouth on the following
Wednesday. That seemed OK, but it was uncomfortable to have a second stoma type
bag next to the original one.
As ever the fantastic Masha was there to pick me up, and for
the second time in a couple of months it felt great to be going home. They had
warned me, but for the first few weeks after the operation, I felt totally
exhausted. As with the previous operation, I made myself walk a bit further
each day, and gradually my strength returned.
Two days after I came out of hospital, Steve Cooper’s
memorial service took place in Bere Regis. I was sad to miss it, but Masha
along with 200+ people did attend, which was a measure of his popularity. Since
our diagnoses were just weeks apart, and because of the time that we had time
spent together, I have really missed Steve, and realise how lucky I have been to
survive so far.
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